Thought of the Week

In my almost 29 years, I realize that I have learned so much and that God continues to put lessons in front of me to help me continue to learn.

As our life changes, we find out more about ourselves and about the people we share our life with; whether that be friends, family, co-workers, or acquaintances.

One of the newest things I have learned, very recently in fact, is that people who you consider to be a close friend, may not be that way now, and that is okay. It is not a reflection of your character, but rather the changing of a season in your life (or perhaps in that person’s life). I think it is so easy to place the blame for a failed friendship on oneself, rather than seeing it for what it is… being at a different place in your life’s journey. 

So rather than allowing myself to continue to be upset, I am giving it to God. I cannot make people like me, but I know God does, and he has placed people in my life who love me for me, imperfections and all. That is really what we all want isn’t it. To be seen for who we really are and loved for it.

To help me put all of this into perspective, I have been reading Hello, Beauty Full by Elisa Morgan. I am not quite finished yet, but the book really has hit home with me numerous times.

It is so easy to forget how wonderful God has made us, and sometimes we need to reevaluate our thoughts and be reminded. Also, we need to remind others of their wonderfulness as well. 

So my thought/ reminder of the week is this:

When God closes one door, he always makes sure to have another open and waiting on you. We just have to have the courage to reach for the handle and turn the knob. #findingmyfaith #thoughtoftheweek #Godslessons #learning #friendship

Until Next Time,

Momma Rae

Finding my way back to God and trusting in Him is a journey that I am loving. One baby step at a time.

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Full Throttle Evolution: A brief self analysis

I have been doing a lot of thinking as of late. Thinking about life, my spiritual journey, and the changes I have undergone since high school. It is amazing to me to look back and see the changes that have bloomed in me, both good and bad. So I decided to write a sort of analysis for self exploration, but also to encourage ya’ll to do the same. You may have a moment of enlightenment or appreciation, or you may just say I’m crazy and find something you like better to read, but you never know…

  1. A New Confidence.
    • When I was in high school, I projected this sort of naive confidence. I remember walking with so much sass that I felt like I was radiating to all parts and crevices around me. Then after high school, that confidence still lingered but not as frequently, and was held up by defensiveness and was only painted on the walls guarding the part of me that felt like it was breaking. The difference then was self doubt began to creep in and out weigh confidence. Soon after that, I married, and I felt like the person I thought I was had suddenly changed or morphed or was lost all together. My confidence shifted, and instead of being concentrated on or within myself, it felt like it depended on the circumstances that permeated my marriage. I realize now, after a couple years of marriage, that what I was feeling was change, and it was me finding my real self again and also for the first time. It still is occurring this change, but I am not so afraid of it anymore. If anything, I have found a sort of comfort in me. I have been able to admit my vulnerabilities to myself and my husband, confess my fears, and truly express my feelings without sugar-coating anything. Also, reclaiming me has reignited my confidence as well as my faith. I have once again changed, and have reached out for my faith. Do not get me wrong, I am definitely not perfect, nor do I pretend to be, but I am trying to be more like God everyday, and I am finding a sort of peaceful confidence because of it. I just purchased a book called Hello Beauty Full by Elisa Morgan, and I am so excited for it to get here, and what I can learn from it. 
  2. The Friend Game
    • Once again, in high school, I was not one to have a bunch of close or best friends. I had a couple, and those friends I would cross hell or high water for, but the rest I always kept at arms length. This sort of behavior remained the same after high school, except most of my high school friends were living a far distance away, so I kept almost everyone I met at arms length. There were a few gals I met in college who I now consider close friends and family, but most have vanished as the memories fade. After I married, my friends became even fewer and far between. Not because I didn’t try or was a nasty person, but because I no longer depended on friendship outside my home. What I have learned is that keeping people at arms length is not fair to them or to myself. So I have made new friends, kept a few from college, and even fewer from high school. It is amazing to me how true friends are the ones that never really go away, no matter how far away you are from each other. They see you in your good and bad times and love you anyway. I guess it really makes me grateful for all that I have, and those wonderful people who have stuck it out with me while I searched for forgiveness and myself.
  3. Lastly, Maturing in Marriage and Love
    • This topic is one that is still in full throttle evolution for me, and I hope it remains that way forever. My Marriage over these last five years has not been a walk in the park or any sort of joy-ride. It has been hard and tasking and gut-wrenching  but also happy and peaceful and uplifting. I think that is part of the journey though. You marry a person who you love, and you learn more about them and yourself than you ever thought possible. It is terrifying for me most of the time because I want to be a perfect wife, but as I have learned, that does not exists. In a way though, I am the perfect version of perfect for my husband and my marriage, and I am learning to give myself some slack and also really see how lucky I am. I no longer care what others say or think about my marriage because they will never know it like I do. That in itself has been one of the biggest victories I think I have had. It was like a switch just flipped one day, and everything sort of made much more sense, like a overwhelming feeling of contentment and peace filled me up and nothing else mattered any more. Again, I do not have the perfect marriage and we still have our disagreements and arguments, but at the end of the day, I know I have found my closest friend that lifts me up and keeps me steady.

I could go on and on with this list about life lessons and what not, but I think these 3 are a good starting point. Definitely something I can expand on in my journal writing. SO what did you think? Have you felt this way? Please comment and let me know, I would love to hear from you!

Until Next Time,

Momma Rae

Resolving the Resolutions in 2017

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Good Afternoon Everyone!

Wow! Can you believe it is already 2017?! I know crazy right. 2016 flew right by, and I am sure 2017 will do the same.

I have been thinking a lot about the new year, and the possibilities and the troubles it may hold. I try to consider both sides of the fence because sticking my head in the sand has never been in my forte. Besides, now is the time we are supposed to be setting new goals, right?

I would have to say, yes and no.

I think before we jump on a bandwagon for popular goals or surface level goals, we need to take a little time to really evaluate ourselves and see what we really want to accomplish this year.

“One way to boost our will power and focus is to manage our distractions instead of letting them manage us.” By Daniel Goleman

One of the ways I decided to approach my new year goals, is to briefly read through various pages in my journal. I find that doing this allows me to see what emotions I was feeling and what caused them. It is so easy, at least for me, to gussy things up when remembering them, rather than being blatantly honest with myself. So reading over the emotions during that moment in time, and then recalling what caused it helps me to stay honest as well as remember things/situations that I may have swept under the rug.

After going through my journal, I really like to write down 3-4 prominent feelings and situations I noticed that frequently occurred in the last year. Once this is done, I start brain storming ways to improve on these situations and increase my emotional awareness.

Once I have a direction for my new year, I write out some goals. I have found that the most important one, I keep to myself. It is my own secret that I am working towards for me and no one else.

This year, I have settled on three things I want to improve on.

  1. I want to be more present, and feel a calm in the moment.
  2. I want to work harder on getting out of dept.
  3. This one, I will keep to myself, but let’s just say it is something I have harped on before.

It is a pretty simple list, but if accomplished, it could really change my life. I think simple goals are important for long term success. Instead of getting bogged down in the details, we have a better idea of what we want, without and specific path to get there.

What are your New Year’s Goals? What is your process in deciding upon these goals?

“The greater danger for most of us isn’t that our aim is too high and miss it, but that it is too low and we reach it.” ~ Michelangelo

Give my process a try, and let me know what you think. If you are not one to keep a journal, you can review pictures, social media, or articles you read to help spark the emotion and memories from the past year.

I really look forward to hearing from you!!

Until Next Time,

Momma Rae

Goals to Help- Goal 2: Kindness

Good Afternoon Everyone!

I have been debating on what I wanted my goal for November to be, and after much deliberation, I have decided that my goal for this month is to be Kind in every action that I make. Sounds easy right? Well I can tell you that I get a little fiery sometimes (blame it on my southern sassy-ness) and I can lose my temper with the best of them.

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However, after watching the build up to the election and the aftermath of it, I am tired of all of the violence and hate begin spewed everywhere. I, by no means, have been a completely innocent bystander, but I have made the decision to do better.

“Do your little bit of good where you are; it’s those little bits of good put together that overwhelm the world.”
Desmond Tutu

One of the first things I am going to do is purchase a LGBT flag, an American Flag, and a Texas flag, and place them in my office (probably the little ones on wooden sticks). I believe that all people deserve kindness, regardless of how they dress or who they love. So the LGBT flag will hopefully let others around me know that I support their rights just as much as I do my own, and being disrespectful or hateful towards that community will not be tolerated in my presence. I also want the American and Texas flag because I think it is important to keep a constant reminder of what is at stake if we do not humble ourselves and remember that we are all human and imperfect. If we cannot listen to our neighbor thoughtfully, then nothing will ever change and change is absolutely necessary.

“I don’t care if you’re black, white, straight, bisexual, gay, lesbian, short, tall, fat, skinny, rich or poor. If you’re nice to me, I’ll be nice to you. Simple as that.”
Robert Michaels

The second thing I am going to do is take a breath when I want to react with anger or spite. Emotions are a funny thing, and sometimes when emotions are high, we behave in a way we are not proud of and would discipline our children if we caught them behaving the same way. So in those moments when I feel myself losing my tongue (in traffic when someone cuts me off, or when someone says something ugly to me), I am going to try to take a step back, breathe, and then calmly approach the situation. There are way to many things in this life to get upset about, someones impatience should not be the brick that my daily foundation of happiness is balanced upon.

“Let us make one point, that we meet each other with a smile, when it is difficult to smile. Smile at each other, make time for each other in your family.”
Mother Teresa

I know these two things seem small, but they are big to me, and will affect my life and the life of those around me greatly, but that is a good thing. I want to be a better human being, a better American. Shouldn’t we all strive for kindness? Do you want to join me? Do you have any ideas of how to extend Kindness daily? Please share your ideas with us!

“Acts of Kindness:
A random act of kindness, no matter how small, can make a tremendous impact on someone else’s life.”
Roy T. Bennett, The Light in the Heart

Until Next Time,

Momma Rae

Momma Rae’s Fall Chicken-Veggie Skillet

Good Afternoon Yall!

I hope everyone has been doing fantastic. Today I have a great and easy recipe for you to try. I took a recipe (here for the original), and adjusted it to fit my time, budget, and health needs. 

So let’s give it a go.

What you will need:

  • 2 Tbsp. Extra Virgin Olive Oil, halved
  • 1 LB. or 1 Large Boneless, Skinless Chicken Breast; cut into 1/2-1in cubes
  • Salt and Pepper
  • 4 Slices of cooked and chopped bacon (If you want a less greasier option, cook bacon the night before, let it cool, chop it, and refrigerate it.)
  • 3-4 Cups Brussels Sprouts, washed, trimmed, halved or quartered
  • 1 Large Sweet Potato, peeled, washed, and cubed into 1/2in pieces
  • 1 Large Yellow or Sweet Onion, chopped coarsely
  • 1 Large Granny Smith Apple; peeled, cored, and chopped into 1/2 slices
  • 3 Tbsp Garlic Powder
  • 1 tsp. dried Thyme
  • 1/2 Tsp. Cinnamon
  • 1 cup Chicken Broth, halved

Directions:

  • In a Large skillet, heat 1 Tbsp. Olive Oil. Add Chicken. Cook through. Remove once cooked and place on a paper-toweled plate. Set aside.
  • Add the rest of Olive oil to the now empty skillet. Add Brussels sprouts, sweet potatoes. Lightly salt and pepper (this is really to taste, but you will be doing it again). Cook over medium-high heat. Stir occasionally for about 15 minutes.
  • Add onion, apples, and garlic powder to the vegetable mix. Stir well. Cook on medium heat for about 10 minutes, stir occasionally.
  • Place chicken back into the mix. Add bacon, thyme, and cinnamon. Stir. Cook over medium heat for about 5 minutes. Add 1/2 cup of chicken broth. Stir occasionally for about 15 minutes.
  • Add remaining chicken broth. Salt and Pepper to taste. Stir. Reduce heat to low. Cover pan and simmer for about 20 minutes. Stir at the 10 minutes remaining mark.
  • Serve!

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That is it. Easy-Peasy. Keep in mind, especially if you are not a Brussels Sprouts fan, that the longer you let it simmer in the chicken broth, the better it will be. I served this in a bowl, but you could add a starch (like brown rice) if you would like.

I hope Y’all like it! Let me know, and if you put your own spin on it, share below that way we can all compare and better our own recipe!

Until Next Time,

Momma Rae

Goals to Help: Goal 1-Charity Miles

Good Morning Y’all!

This past Sunday was the American Foundation for Suicide Prevention’s Walk in Lubbock, and I have to say that it had a great turn out and really helped to raise awareness. #afsplbk

After the walk was finished, I really got to thinking. I should look into ways I can do more to help others. Here is what I have decided. For the rest of the year, I am going to set short term personal goals that are directed at helping others in some way (Probably one per month). Since I am starting this mid-month, some months I will be working on two goals. By then end of the year, I will reflect back on my experiences and see what the final overall result is.

My first goal I am going to try to commit to is using the app Charity Miles every time I am walking or jogging. I began using the app yesterday during the AFSPLBK walk, and I really felt like it was a great way to help one of my favorite charities.

I am not being paid to endorse the app or anything like that, I just really like how easy it is to use and how it helps you get moving while helping others.

Challenge: I challenge you to utilize your favorite charity app that involves movement! Please comment below and tell everyone which app you chose and why using the hashtag: #getmovingforcharity

I am so excited to learning about different apps you use and why you chose them, so please do not be shy and share!

Until next time,

Momma Rae

Add some color: Vegetables! 

Hey Y’all! 

As summer is coming to a close, and the warm colors of Autumn start to show, I like to start mixing up my vegetables to add some color and texture. 


So here is what you will need:

1 container, drained and sliced mushrooms

About 12 Brussel sprouts, washed and halved

1 large yellow onion, sliced

2 sweet potatoes, peeled and sliced

About 3 cups of quartered purple potatoes

1/4 cup soy sauce

2 Tbsp olive oil

4 Tbsp margarine or butter

Garlic powder

Directions: 

In a large skillet, heat oil and butter until melted. Add onions. Cook until almost translucent. Add mushrooms and soy sauce. Stir. Cook for about 5 minutes over medium heat. Add Brussel sprouts, potatoes, and garlic salt. Cook for about 15 minutes, stirring often. Reduce heat to low, cover. Simmer for about 10 minutes. 

You will want a fork to easily slide into the potatoes. If after this time, a fork does not slide easily, transfer vegetables into a microwave safe bowl, drizzle with about 1-2 Tbsp of olive oil, cover, and cook for about 5-10 minutes. If you have a fresh vegetable sensor cooker setting on your microwave, use that. 

Let stand for 5 minutes, then serve! Can be paired with protein, noodles, or rice. 

Hope y’all enjoy that and let me know what you think! 

Until next time, 

Momma Rae